Love, or attraction?

Love, or attraction?

Three concepts confused by adolescents are deeply related, but they are not the same, although they intervene in the way in which we see the loved one in different stages of coexistence as a couple. Welcome to our random chat community and keep eye on our blog.


Although there are many definitions, I quote the following: Falling in love is an emotional state characterized by the joy and strong attraction of one person to another. This feeling is manifested in individuals in such a way that they feel that they can share all kinds of events in their lives (Concept, 2015).

Some characteristics of falling in love are:

  • A strong desire for intimacy and physical contact (hugs, kisses, caresses including sexual relations).
  • Desire for reciprocity in the relationship of falling in love on the part of the couple.
  • Obsessive thoughts by the other person and some uncertainty or fear of being rejected.
  • Inability to concentrate on activities other than the person of interest.
  • Nervousness before the real or imaginary presence of the other person, which is activated by just naming it yourself or being mentioned by another person.
  • Impossibility to observe or detect the negative aspects of the potential partner.

Sexual attraction

Sexual attraction refers to the ability to attract the sexual interest of potential reproductive partners. In humans it is understood as the ability to generate erotic interest in other people. Attraction can be enhanced by items such as clothing, smells (e.g. perfume), way of moving, and so on (Wikipedia, 2017).

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Some characteristics of sexual attraction are:

  • Feel excitement
  • Butterflies in the stomach
  • Flushing, fast pulse, sweating, stuttering
  • For men: V-shaped figure, shoulders broader than hips, flat abdomen, healthy teeth and skin, etc.
  • For women: Smooth and clean skin, shiny hair, wobbly walking, abundant breasts, broad hip, narrow waist, etc.

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Triangular Theory of Love: In this theory it is proposed that for there to be true love there must be three components: passion, intimacy and decision or commitment. Each of these concepts is defined as follows:

  1. Passion: sexual or romantic desire of great intensity, accompanied by a strong tendency to seek the physical and / or emotional union with the other.
  2. Intimacy: knowledge of the other and confidence in what is, what does and what feels. Closeness and concern for your well-being. Need for rapprochement and mutual disclosure.
  3. Decision or commitment: willingness to maintain the bond and feeling of responsibility in this regard. Interest in overcoming adversities and perpetuating affection, beyond temporal circumstances (Sánchez, 2015).
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